Role of a Father
Let's get down to the essence of Melonomics – the pursuit of wealth that goes beyond material acquisitions. It's about becoming the wealth, recognizing your unique set of talents, abilities, and gifts. It's about creating a life of purpose, where wealth is not just what you acquire, but who you become.
In the world of wealth creation, we often talk about investments, real estate, and business. However, I want to emphasize that you are the wealth. Before you accumulate any material possessions, you possess a set of unique attributes – talents, ideas, habits, and inclinations that shape everything you do. Tapping into these forms the foundation of your wealth creation journey.
Now, onto the core of today's discussion. In the midst of the chaos in our world, I find it imperative to address a significant hindrance to our collective success: fatherlessness. A new generation of young men has been deprived of the example of what it takes to be a man and a father.
The racial wealth gap is a stark reality – with white families having approximately 17 times the overall worth of black families. While historical factors have undoubtedly played a role, I'm not here to dwell on the past. Instead, I want to focus on actionable ideas and solutions relevant to today's society, economy, and culture.
Fatherhood is a crucial component, often overlooked. The dynamic of the black family has evolved over the last 50 years, with two-parent households decreasing from 80% in 1960 to less than 30% in 2020. Regardless of debates on fault, one undeniable truth remains: fathers are necessary in the household for social and financial stability.
To address this issue, we must delve into the essence of fatherhood. It's not merely about being a provider – it's about being a father. What does it take to be a father? This question is often neglected in our community, as if assuming that once a man becomes a father, he automatically knows how to navigate the complexities of fatherhood.
Drawing from personal experiences and observations, I want to emphasize three key qualities essential for a man as a father: vision, provision, and improvision.
1. Vision: A man must have a vision for his life and his children. This vision sets the standard for how he raises his children, emphasizing principles and values aligned with his purpose.
2. Provision: Beyond financial aspects, provision involves being a steward of resources. Managing resources wisely – be it money, wisdom, instruction, or relationships – is vital for advancing family circumstances.
3. Improvision: Life is unpredictable, and a man must be able to improvise, making the most of available resources and adapting to unforeseen challenges. This quality is crucial for instilling resilience and problem-solving skills in the family.
In my 21 years of fatherhood, I've learned that these attributes are paramount. Whether married or single, intentional fatherhood requires a deep understanding of these qualities to truly create generational wealth.
To build the wealth our community needs, we must foster strong, productive, and responsible fathers. Closing the racial wealth gap demands a collective mindset focused on increasing resources and opportunities for everyone.
So, gentlemen, let's step up. Let's be intentional fathers, fostering vision, providing wisely, and adapting to life's unpredictabilities. After all, strong, productive men are the key to closing the wealth gap.